I recently had a few family friends over, including their kids – two toddlers and an infant. I believe this is what people with children call a "play date." As we chatted about the challenges of motherhood and our kids, I realized I need to stop putting members of my secret Mother Council on a pedestal. These are the mamas who inspire me with their parental ways, their super powers to discipline their children effectively, and their extraordinary courage to maintain their sanity (and identity) despite the sometimes madness of child rearing. The members of my Mother Council are loving and proactive in their daughters' and sons' development and are willing to take a stand at school for what works best for how their kids learn. To me, they are always composed. Nothing breaks them, not even when their kids display the worst of meltdowns. They are well read on the latest parenting techniques, and they know intuitively what to do. They are naturals, and they've had years of experience. Much more experience than I.
As amazing as these women are, they have their moments, and they can be broken. They need their time out too. They need to refuel. How? Might be a glass of wine, a weekly yoga/massage session, or a good cry. Or any other combination. I haven't yet established a set routine of feel good activities as I'm still grappling with new mamahood. But for sure, I continue to seek the wisdom of my Mother Council as I navigate through my unfamiliar normal.