20.1.12

Come what may

imperfect as the world is
it moves with flawed grace
life is undeniably full of bizarre hope
come what may

Every day, every week, it all counts.  Waiting for something to finally happen, waiting for someone to finally arrive into our lives can be trying.  When we're in grade school, turning 10 means double digits.  When we're in our tweens, we can't wait to be teenagers.  Can't wait to go to college . . . our first real job . . . apartment . . . our only love . . .

In waiting mode, we can't focus so much on the waiting.  All we can do is take a deep breath, appreciate the present . . . come what may.    

Because every moment counts.

13.1.12

Staying connected

Last Sunday, we had the treat of visit with cousin V. and her family in Congers (NY).  Our gathering was past due what with recovery from the holidays.  We enjoyed a lovely brunch spread complete with two kinds of eggs, warmly fresh bagels & lox spread, homemade salad, & tilapia, care of V. and husband A., and took the time to reconnect.  Even more fun was playing hide & seek with 3-year-old A. and 1.5-year-old M. as well as witnessing their adeptness at working their personal itouch devices!  A. & I walked away with a heartfelt gratitude for V. and family and our effort to stay involved in each other's lives.  In our hours-long conversation, we understood how similar A.'s experience of not having grown up with his parents having been raised by his grandma in the Philippines had been similar to V. and her brother, A.'s years of not seeing their father, who left Brazil to create a better financial life in the States.  That shared experience creates a unique attachment between cousins.  A little wine & champagne along with laughter doesn't hurt either.

"Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family." 
No matter how crazy schedules are with kids' activities, work and other obligations, make the time to authentically connect with friends and family.  Those true and raw moments of honesty go a long way in feeling deep centeredness. 

11.1.12

Let the universe unfold

Given the new year, I recently signed up for the 21-day yoga challenge through Yoga Journal.  15 minutes of yoga, 15 minutes of meditation, and at least 1 vegetarian meal a day.  Simple enough.  Not really.  Especially for someone as undisciplined as myself.  While I am always thankful after the fact (that is, the yoga . . . the meditation and eating 1 vegetarian meal a day, those are less challenging), to actually make a daily commitment in the midst of everything is a task.  Day 3 - so far so good. Bring it on!

Below is one of A.'s favorite poems, which speaks to me so clearly these days.  (It was one of the readings at our wedding.)
Desiderata by Max Ehrmann
Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

The remarkable thing about yoga is, it has the power to keep the peace in our souls.  Amazing how a particular situation might present itself when least expected.  In the midst of family, work, and personal matters, life has a way of throwing a a zinger or two.  And sometimes, for a moment, it feels like we're drifting through a dream.

Whether or not it is clear to us, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. 

1.1.12

Sun-has-not-strength-to-thaw moon (in honor of The New Year)

what is life?  
it is the roar of the ocean on a crisp new year's day
it is the whip of the wind that lifts my spirit
it is the glare of the sun, the star that keeps my heart aglow
life honors the Great Spirit